Mother's Day

I have often thought of the many aspects and virtues of motherhood and it probably was not until I became an adult and ventured from home that I realized just how many varying definitions, perceptions, and challenges are involved in the role of motherhood.

A mother has a heart for her child and is able to see their strengths, push them towards their goals and aspirations and reins her child in when they venture too far down the road in the wrong direction.

Whether a career woman or a stay-at-home mom, whether a mother with a newborn baby or a mother with 5 grown children, motherhood is thought to be more challenging today than in years gone by.  Today’s mother aspires to balance home, work, the child’s activities, education and now added to the list is the critical need to keep our children safe.  Gun violence is much more prevalent as is bullying.  Statistics show that hundreds of children have died due to gun violence in this year.  Various illnesses are on the rise such as cancer and diabetes among children and the numbers of mothers and their children who are in poverty and have no food is simply staggering.  Statistics show that approximately 15 million children being raised by single mothers live at or below poverty*.

Armed with this information as well as so much more information available, determine what you can and what you are willing to do.  Determine how you can make a difference from your corner of the world.

*Single Mother Statistics http://singlemotherguide.com/single-mother-statistics/

A reassurance we can always hold on to is our spiritual connection.  I saw my mother lean on the Lord as she faced her challenges of motherhood.  My personal view was of a devoted, tireless, woman who became fragile before my eyes as I became an older teenager.

Whatever challenges life brings you, as a mother, I encourage you to allow God to be your anchor that holds you steady and offers the balance and strength you need.  Trust the Lord in all of your ways; acknowledge him, and trust his direction.

As we approach Mother’s Day 2014, I share with you a poetic tribute I wrote to my mother. My mother, Braddella Elisabeth Brown blessed my sister, brother, and I with excellent mothering and she was taken from this life at the age of 51 on February 18, 1983.

Mother dear you will always be

My mother so loving and so loved by me

You blessed my life in so many ways

Our memories I’ll cherish until the end of my days

You left me too soon and this was not part of our plan

But God’s wishes always come before those of man

Mommy’s heart, though filled with love simply became too weak

She fought the good fight; till finally she reached her peak.

A bond we shared so strong and so true

A bond unlike any other

A bond shared only by a daughter and her mother.

Being with God, she’s found rest and peace

In this I have comfort and some happiness at least

My mother dear you will always be

My Mother so loving and so loved by me.

SharB~TTSD
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Pass Me a Cookie

I recall a wonderful beautician I had when I lived in Texas.  Every time I walked out of her shop, I looked like I had the best hair style in town.  But not only did I get my hair done; I got my head done too.  She always deposited positive words of wisdom in me.  One day I told her about an incident with my son and the discipline that followed from his father.  As I shared this with my beautician, she simply told me wait until your husband is finished then go give your son a cookie.  Not a literal cookie, but the motherly love that will remind him that discipline comes because we love him.  The cookie represented the encouragement and love needed to move on from that moment.    And on a side note, when my mother disciplined me, she used to say, “This hurts me more than it hurts you.”  I never believed that until I became a mother and my own child needed discipline!

Discipline, correction, even constructive criticism does not feel good; however, it is a necessary part of the process of building character, building hope, and helping you pursue your destiny and reach your goals. — Pass Me a Cookie

Be aware of your inner voice that often questions “Can I?” “Will I be able to…?”  Do not allow it to keep you from doing you. – Pass Me a Cookie

On your journey to success, there will be obstacles, but continue to pursue.  I remind you to stand firm and prepare yourself to go forward.

What is your cookie?  What keeps you with a positive mindset focusing on what lies ahead?  Is it your faith in God?  Is it knowing that the Bible says that you can, with faith, tell the mountain to move out of your way and it will move?  (Paraphrased from Mark 11:23).  Maybe your cookie is knowing that the Bible says in Matthew 19:26 with God all things are possible. 

Maybe your cookie is your determination to be a change agent, to be the one to make a difference?  If so, recall this famous quote from Mahatma Gandhi, you must be the change you wish to see in the world.

Nothing is accomplished as you sit idly wondering and wishing.  Get up, bake the cookies AND pass them around.  Allow your excitement and determination to be contagious.

SharB~TTSD
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Implode or Explode?

As the scaffolding comes down, don’t let it implode and cancel your plans, your vision, or your goals.  When it is identified and your decision has been made, stand firm and hold fast to your decision not allowing discouragement to cause you to waver.  Be prepared for discouragement, it will come and it will come in many forms:  family, friends, procrastination, fear, the weather, etc.  Discouragement can cause the walls of the scaffolding you have fought so hard to bring down to implode canceling what you have worked so hard for.

How do you respond?  Do you implode also or do you stand in the face of adversity, in the face of discouragement and declare I will face the challenge; I will speak to this mountain and go forth to reach my destiny, my goal, and accomplish the purpose God has planned for me.

Standing firm strengthens your will and your faith.  Believe in yourself and your successes just as God believes in you and the plans he has purposed for you that will give you a future and hope.

I leave you to ponder this familiar poem by Langston Hughes…

A Dream Deferred
Langston Hughes

What happens to a dream deferred?

Does it dry up
like a raisin in the sun?
Or fester like a sore–
And then run?
Does it stink like rotten meat?
Or crust and sugar over–
like a syrupy sweet?

Maybe it just sags
like a heavy load.

Or does it explode?

I hope this message inspires and challenges you to stand firm, push through and anticipate the explosion of your vision and your dream into reality.

SharB~TTSD
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Spring Renewal

Greetings!

Returning to my blog after a lengthy hiatus, I continue to use scaffolding metaphorically as a person, a situation, an illness, or anything that you can identify as something in or around your life that needs to come down. During this time away, I completed a Master’s Degree, moved to new city, and accomplished a few other tasks that were set before me.  Now I suggest that during this season of renewing and refreshing, allow your soul and spirit an opportunity to reconnect with God. 

There is a quote that says, “A journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step.”  My personal experience is that the initial step towards my goal takes great faith, but it is that step of that faith that leads to an outcome better than I ever expected.  Let me give you an example.

It was a great accomplishment in my life when I obtained my Bachelor’s degree so when the idea was presented to pursue a Master’s Degree, it felt so far away, almost unreachable; however that first step of faith led to the planning, the preparation, and ultimately the realization of that magnificent goal.

Whatever your goals, wishes, or aspirations, take the first step of faith towards fulfillment.  Tear down the scaffolding of doubt, indecision, and fear and let there be a spring time in your life where your dreams and plans bloom and the rivers of your thoughts flow fresh with new ideas.

Mount up with wings as eagles and soar…

SharB~TTSD
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Bringing the Walls Down

I have metaphorically used scaffolding, a wall that encloses or supports a building or structure, throughout my writing and I continue that theme here.

There comes a time when the walls of scaffolding need to come down.  Is there a wall of scaffolding that is surrounding you?  Perhaps it is even holding you back from your forward progress.  It takes faith to move beyond the walls of the scaffolding.  It takes faith to move from the walls of certainty into an area of uncertainty.  It takes faith to move from the safety and assurance of the known into an area of unknown.  It takes faith to see beyond today and look towards a brighter tomorrow.  It takes faith to choose path A over path B.  You may ask, which way is my most prosperous future?  You may wonder which way promises healthy living.  You may ask the Lord, which way is the plan You have for my life?  If I am to walk in the will of God, which path should I take?

Matthew 7: 13-14 lays part of it out for you.  From the NKJV it says, “Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it.  Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it.”  In this parable, the broad path symbolizes the myriad of choices, feel good moments, and quick fixes but they each lead to an end of destruction.  The narrow way sounds like it may be hard to get through but it is, however, wide enough for all that choose it.  This path is for those that choose to place God first and follow his plan for your future.  The narrow path leads to a life of purpose and hope with an expected end.

It may take reaching beyond our familiar comfort zone, but reach out, press forth, make a difference.  God bless you.

SharB~TTSD
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May Thoughts/June Thoughts

May Thoughts
The foundation is built and what goes in the foundation helps solidify the structure that will sit on top of it.  If your foundation is solid, if it has been laid with love, compassion, and making right choices, then your life will reflect righteousness and purposeful living.  I have heard it said, “Do what’s right because it’s what’s right.”

It was Mother’s Day, Memorial Day, and the anniversary of the passing of my brother.  My previous message of removing the scaffolding of grief applied to me repeatedly throughout the month.  It was a necessary to remove that part of the scaffolding that suffocated like a shroud.  The light came in and the sweet memories were once again revealed. 

Mother's Day is one of the many occasions we are given to reflect on our mother’s love and the support we were given over the years as well as the impact she had on our lives making us who we are today.  I remember my mother having the heart and the wisdom to see in me my strengths and hopes yet supporting me in my difficult times.  What do you remember about your mother?  If she is still here, when did you last speak to her, shared a pleasant thought?  If she is not still here, think of your fondest memory now and allow the light from your scaffolding to shine through.

June Thoughts

Be a person of integrity.
Hold on to your integrity.
Your plan, your goal, your ultimate desire should be to live a life of integrity.
Never allow falsehoods and negativity to engulf you.
Who are you when the scaffolding comes down?
When the walls are bare, and there’s no one there?
Who are you?
Where do you stand?
Do you have an unbreakable grip on integrity?

SharB~TTSD
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